Safe Dating Guide

Simple Guidance to Staying Safe while Dating Online

  1. Check the details of the person you are meeting. If you can, look at their Facebook or Linked-In profiles beforehand.
  2. Meet in public somewhere you cannot be followed home from.
  3. Above all, tell a friend who you are with and where you are, and arrange a time by which you will call them to let you know you are alright.
  4. Never give out your e-mail details or other contact details before you feel confident in the person. Some people ask for personal contact details immediately, NEVER feel you have to do this.
  5. Do not put personal things on your profile that can make it easy for anyone to find out who you are and how they might find you.
  6. Don’t undermine your privacy by putting your entire life on Facebook or Linked-In. Some people go into very great detail about themselves, where they live and who their children are, often including pictures.
  7. Always check your privacy settings to see what’s in the public domain. Many people don’t realise that their conversations are open to the public.
  8. To anyone starting internet dating, take a long hard look at your Facebook page and delete anything inappropriate. And don’t necessarily believe all you see on a prospective partner’s pages either, make sure you do as much homework as possible as you can on them too, also remember People often spice up their Facebook profiles.

Scammers/Fraudsters (Please Read FAQ)

There will occasionally be people who say they are looking for a soulmate but really only trying to extract money out of their emotionally vulnerable victims. Many people around the world have developed some very sophisticated techniques for doing so. They create attractive profiles, often partially copied from other people. They will often say that they are widowed and have young children with chronic illnesses. The stories, of course, change all the time. They know how to make people feel special and needed, but despite a stream of promises, the first date never quite materialises, then the repeated requests for cash begin.

People who are wise to tricksters are lured in when emotionally vulnerable, they may even part with large sums of money. You should never give money to someone you have met online. If you know someone who has been scammed, encourage them to not blame themselves but to learn from their mistake and to move on. Once someone has fallen subject to a romance scam, they tend to be targeted repeatedly and sometimes fall victim again, we all get scammed at some stage in our lives but romance scams are especially cruel.

Code of conduct:

Below is a list of things you should adhere to as a member of the milesapart community:

  1. Only send messages to people you are interested in getting to know.
  2. Be friendly, kind and honest to and with others.
  3. Keep dialogue on the site until you have built rapport.
  4. Be yourself, telling the truth about yourself imperfections and all will give you or other members hidden surprises should you meet up.
  5. Report any concerns immediately to our moderators.
  6. Respect others' opinions and decisions.
  7. Consult our Customer Care team for advice.

Below is the list of things that you should not do as a member of the milesapart community under any circumstances:

  1. Do not 'spam' a number of people with the same message as per terms and conditions (Article 7 AUP).
  2. Do not be rude, lewd or offensive, as per Article 7 (AUP).
  3. Do not exchange contact details until you're ready to meet.
  4. Do not use fake, outdated or modified photos, show your true self.
  5. Do not stand for abuse on our site in any way shape or form, report it to us if necessary.
  6. Do not provoke or harass people,as per Article 7 (AUP).
  7. Don't respond harshly to rejection, we all get rejected at some point, how we deal with it makes us who we are.

Safety Advice:

Although online dating safety is previously mentioned at the top of the page, we can not emphasize just how important it is for members to keep safe, now dating is fun, but to ensure you do it in the safest way possible we have put together a few reminders to help you get the most out of your dating experience.

  1. Never give money to another member, if someone you are communicating with asks you for money or your bank details, you should report the member as soon as possible, they are likely to be a scammer.
  2. If you have experienced monetary fraud online, report it to Action Fraud via the following link:
  3. Do not give out your number or email address. Wait until you know someone a little better before you share your contact details. If someone asks for your number or email straight away, politely decline.
  4. Report unwarranted behavior. If you encounter a suspicious member on the site or someone has been rude to you, do not hesitate, report them.
  5. Meet in a public place. When you meet another member for the first time, do it in a public place, do not go to their home and do not give them your address.
  6. Do not let your date pick you up from your home for your first meeting, Arrange your own transport and if necessary check the time of the last train/bus/tube for your return home.
  7. Always tell a family member or friend. Inform someone you know and trust that you are going on a date and give them details of where you are going and when you intend to return home.
  8. Stay connected. Make sure your phone is charged before your date.
  9. Take action. If you encounter or have encountered an incident of a serious nature call the police straight away and report your experience, then follow up email etc. on the milesapart site.
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